Such is life -part 2!

After a rather long yet truthful article...I actually found a little more things to add to it...so here goes..

Well having received mixed views on the 'moving on' stage,feel the need to build on it...As a person decides to 'move on' there are many hindrances one experiences...I believe that the whole 'I'll-take-it-all-in-my-stride' isn't realistic...none can claim to do it with perfection...its only humane to think about the "what-ifs" so as to say...There come stages when you feel being insensitive will help, or shying away from the problem is the best option you got,or you doubt yourself in one too many ways....On observing certain instances,one feels that positive thinking bordering on idealistic and wishful thinking is the best way to cope up with the changing times...but then sometimes idealistic thinking can take you away from reality,it is totally upto the individual not to get carried away...

Prolonged observation and experiences entitle me to safely assume that these things are common to all...no exceptions...Honestly, moving on is an uphill task.Precisely why how you handle it is what matters....whether one is able to diguise one's personal life or not is his/her personna,just be careful not to start fabricating the truth to yourself...and also so long as you don't make a spectacle out of it nobody will bother to intrfere-you get all the privacy required to handle delicate issues!!! Implying the magnamity of your problem isn't the answer to anything....its all about focussing on coming out of your 'black hole', its tough no doubt but then what isn't?!!

Today,attitude, well right attitude is what matters the most!!! Attitude has a really important role to play.Being composed and working things out is the prescribed way to handle dicey matters.Yet (obviously) attitude differs from person to person,not all can be calm and pose to the world that they can 'handle-it-all'.Its all part of the learning experience.It is true that what one has to bear the consequences of their actions,so might as well act smart and stand out than screw up and be 'standing out'!!!

I would like to conclude by saying that we all work to make things right...irrespective of the situation all of us want the the same thing(well almost all of us)....it all matters on our approach to acheiveing our goals...!

Personality tests!!!

Well off late I have taken a certain interest in how these so called 'Personality Tests' work....I must say they are highly intriguing!!

The content of these tests is similar more or less yet the results differ!!!No offence to the creators as I am sure they have set up these tests sincerely...for those who haven't experienced these test,I recommend a few tests...they are fun....really...you get to learn a lot from them...whether about yourself or not depends on your honesty while answering!!

Such tests are part of various popular networking sites for those who are unaware!Also if you have time to kill...n need an interesting way to spend your time...just type personality tests in your search engine and you will get the links to various free tests so google on!!

Such is life....!!

Disclaimer:This post is the product of a certain family function where I had the honour of meeting long forgotten relatives each of whom politely inquired about how I am doing (read "beta what r u studying? which college? what r u gonna study in d future?"etc etc....!)...well this post is dedicated to all my relatives who time and again reminded me of the various stages in my life so far...also not all are what I done,some count as the ones I have to put up with!

          Well,for starters, i wont bore you with my life story because it ain't that impressive or interesting to be posted...so lets get on...I'd rather share the stages which probably many of you'll will identify with....if you can't then u are (un)lucky!!!

            The stages which I am referring to are actually phases that teach us alot...like the stage when I shifted to Mumbai from Pune..I had to adjust to the Mumbai-style of living, the lingo,the bus and train travelling,and most of all the people...I still remember the first day in VESIT,I was sorta lost...didn't know anyone around and otherwise everyone seemed to know each other...felt really out of place,but then slowly but surely things fell into place...

            The next stage is after you get a group of friends you hang out...have fun...crack jokes all day long...spend almost all of your time with them...and its hassel free...because u just know them,not too well though...so the stage where you tease each other and make fun of each other innocenlty and all...sadly this phase comes with an expiry date...slowly you have to come to terms with the things that initially never hurt anyone but post-expiry date the same silly things lead to unnecessary misunderstandings....call it side effects of taking the pill once you know it is ineffective..!

             Next up is the stage where you break the cucoon of your 'group'and meet new people in college...seniors and juniors alike...you develop a rapport with these people, start acknowledging their presence in college corridors and they also do the same...I wont lie its a nice feeling that some people know you in college...it helps you out in more than one ways...you get to meet new interesting people,make friends,get and give guidance,exchange thoughts and all....basically improves your interaction with people -period!!!!

             Needless to say,after you are known by coupla people outside your 'group'of friends,you have to explain alot to ur friends....to think of it,they expect an explaination as to what sorta  interaction you have with these new folks...you are suspected of many things like going around with certain XYZ person,sucking upto some person fr some favours,or creating a sect of followers and god knows what...and you still have to stick up with these people as  they are supposedly your 'friends'....i mean nothing can infuriate a person more...its seriously humiliating...then come those so called 'clearing sessions'where in you clear out stuff and patch up....its helpful,no doubt...but overdose of it can lead to mental disturbance....!!

             Then comes the times when you move on...decide your focus in life....work towards it....as if its the only thing in life...in the process you disturb one too many things...There are times when you realise that you are either way too focussed or way too out of place...just because your priorities are different and you are a no fuss person, you are looked down upon...If you are the kind of person who believes in gaining experience then no matter what you do you can learn from it...you need not obsess about a certain thing and impose it upon others...

              Ofcourse,in due time,you learn to move on...the whole 'moving on 'phase goes on in the background...move on from failure to achieve a certain grade,move on from things that bother you,move on from people you shared a rapport with and suddenly you behave like complete strangers,move on from the fact that you have lesser things in common with a certain people than you thought you had,move on from the public humiliations,move on from sore relations,move on from attachments with a certain body of work.....you just have to move on.....you have no other option....holding onto such things is stupidity because it just hurts you more than anything....so might as well let it go...atleast it'll hurt less and pass by...!

              Phew....too much to go through??Well not yet....there are loads of other stages which are specific to certain people....as this will cause the post to turn into great slumber material,I'll put an end to this stage!!! After all,without these stages,whats life???????

          

          

             

Ignorance is bliss!!!

Whoever coined this phrase must have been a sheer genius!!! Over the recent past I have come to appreciate the various meanings associated with this phrase and trust me,they all are so apt!!

It is believed that ignoring a person is indicative of bad behaviour...I don't think ignoring people is correct...especially when they are acquaintances or more over friends...but we can always learn to ignore certain faults or qualities that we disapprove of in them,it certainly helps in building a rapport with a person plus technically u ain't disowning the person!! Ignoring certain fallacies doesn't mean that u disapprove of the person,its just that you have accepted the person the way he/she is and have chosen to overlook certain qualities they possess!! Certainly ignoring such things is justified...!The whole point is to practice and then preach...so first implement it yourselves and then tell others to follow it...!

Sometimes you feel the need to get on with your life....everyone has their share of problems....face them and move on....always look for solutions,don't create problems!! Ignoring certain aspects of a problem like the difficulty in finding a solution,or the helpless situation where all you pray for is divine intervention; certainly helps speed up the process of damage control....pondering over how things are,why things are so etc don't help the cause one bit.Instead it just adds to the worries...so learn to ignore such things because "Impossible is Nothing!!"

Ignoring a few matters which don't really affect your own life helps in focusing on your own goals...I am not saying that totally give up on everything else and be self-centered,its just that on some occasions,its better if you are the centre of your universe and nobody else...some may say its being selfish or being too proud of oneself or having utter disregard for other people's feelings or whatever...bottom line is that its not a crime to look after yourself...its not mandatory to be part of other's life (esp when the person ain't totally thrilled by your involvement ) and it certainly ain't wrong to work on things that are important to you first and then move on to help others out....Please don't get me wrong I am not anti-social or anti-people or the unkind or unhelpful...I am just saying that finally no one cares more for your life than you do...so there is no harm in being the centre of attraction in your OWN life!!!

In the end I'd like to add by saying ignorance is bliss,use it judiciously!!!

My poem.....

Well I am not the author or poet kinds....but I'd like to share a poem that I have written....I admit that I don't really share my poems,but this one was written a long time back (plus it got published in a mag so I think its not that bad!!!)....

Betrayal

Her existence was something exceptional for me

Her understanding nature was a pleasure to me

She seemed to be social to all,yet special to me

In this unfaithful world,she was a saviour to me.

She was my only soul-mate

She was the only friend written in my fate

How can I forget her assuring hand

For because of her,in this world,I stand.

She was at times my guide

Among others,it was her thoughts I used to abide

Most times she consoled me

Every time she supported me.

But one day I heard her say

That I have been chosen as her prey

I was totally take n aback

She said,she'd packed my sack!

I couldn't utter a word

My thoughts were that of a caged bird

Her intentions pierced through me like a sword

I couldn't believe whatever I had heard

Everything around seemed wayward.

My heart was totally broken

I understood,from my sleep,I was awoken

I was partially angry,partially sad

As I thought I had lost all I had.

Then I told my mind

I won't trust any of her kind

I understood,it was my mistake

I learnt that some friendships are fake!!

Why I am here.......?!

This is the first time I am venturing into the world of "blogging"....Its interesting to read other blogs and comments...you get to make fun of other posts,comment on what is right and wrong,point out faults....that (fyi) is the easier way out....What I don't understand is that if you have the audacity to sit and find faults then why not prove your point by writing a blog yourself??? Here is why you can write a blog yourself...it's FREE!!!!....its FUN!!!...and of course it gives you an opportunity to SAY WHAT YOU WANT!!!....Enough reasons to write your own blog,right???
The whole concept of sharing your thoughts with loads of people is somewhat scary....I understand...being one of the lot who is hesitant to share things with too many people,I totally understand the thought process behind making up your mind to step up and speak your heart out....but you know what? screw it....just do it !!(hope Nike doesn't mind me using their tag line! :P)...The whole point is not what you say and who you are addressing in your blog...its just about saying what you need to say...!!! Makes sense??(I really hope I do!!:P)....
Ok, so my sense of humour is a little on the weaker side(that is certainly an understatement,some will definitely agree!!)....and I may be a little repetitive (there I go again !)....so what?? so long as I say what I want....it hardly matters....if you want to read on....you are welcome...and if you feel that you can do a better job then please feel free to post your blog site I'll learn from you!!...and if you are of the category who will comment and not write yourself then please as of now (being a beginner myself) I'll just encourage you to write along!!....Oh and yeah if you fall in neither of the above categories then I'd like to clarify that constructive criticism only will be appreciated...!!